To cry everyday for what you have lost does not mean that your abnormal. You are very NORMAL, everyone goes through grief and you are not alone. Knowing why you are crying is the hard part, are you crying because you miss the physical presence of your Mom, or because her health problem could be your problem? Are you crying because of the things that you will never share with her, the what could have been? Are you crying for what you can not change, what you have no control over?


Please join others that are Remembering Mom in Yahoo Egroups. You can find that on our Webring homepage - http://www.rrtstudios.com/Members/OhDaniGrl/Webring.htm


I would like you to think about seeing a doctor and being truthful with him about the crying, it can be a sign of other things happening in your body that is being intensified by your grief. I went through a similar situation and found I had Thyroid disease and once treated for that was helped.


I also want to post here the "HARTS STAGES OF GRIEF" which may help you think about where you are and where you may want to go:


HARTS 5 Stages of Grief




H - 1 - HURT - The Shock, numbness, denial


and intense feelings when you find life has


been forever changed. You can live in a fog


of confusion with moments of acute


awareness.


A - 2 - AWARE - Frustration, fear, anger


and loneliness seem to overwhelm your life.


You become aware that life has changed and


the future will not be as you had planned.


R - 3 - RESOLVE - A time when guilt, envy


of others that have not experienced your


change seems to be heightened. You resolve


some of the loss, and try to remove the


obstacles to dealing with your emotions. The


guilt of not feeling the initial intense feelings


can move you back and trap you.


T - 4 - TIME - Time becomes the friend and


the enemy. It is a time of reliving past hurts


and giving way to judgments. You perceive


each moment of not living through the


changes as a reprieve.


S - 5 - SHARE - Renewal of the Spirit begins


at this time when you begin to share and


support others. You let go of the control


over the choices that are not yours.




May your angel hold your heart in warm and loving hands


Randi

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In September of 2000 my mom lost her fight with breast cancer. She was my mom, my best friend, and the best grandma to my kids I could have ever hoped for. I was the best DD I could be to her, but I still wonder if I could have done more, or if I should have done something different. I think of her last weeks so often, but when I think of her it is of her healty. I don't think I am coping very well, I still cry everyday. Would love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation.