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JP

Japryse@aol.com

IP: 64.12.117.18

Apr 29, 07 - 9:48 PM 		Introduction as well...

Im J. or JJ, whatever you would like to call me. I live in OKC and am just starting to learn and develop a plan for transitioning. Pretty much just wanted to say HEY@
Adrien


IP: 71.210.198.139

Apr 29th, 2007 - 10:39 PM 		Re: Introduction as well...

Hey J - great to have you here
Syd

www.vonpoe.blogspot.com

IP: 24.4.127.176

Apr 30th, 2007 - 9:31 AM 		Re: Introduction as well...

Hello! Welcome to the boards! May you find what you seek, or, failing that something equally valuable. Be well.
JP


IP: 64.12.117.18

Apr 30th, 2007 - 10:01 PM 		Re: Introduction as well...

Thanks...if you guys can relate or not..I come from a staunch Republic Rush Limbaugh upbringing. It is obvious that I am 'boyish' and am called sir or dude most places I go. I get a little frsutrated though at the ways out. Therapy, Edno guy, then possible surgery. I have been watching boards for a long time and really am starting to see a path which seems progressive and meaningful. The roadblock, being my family. BIG TIME. What would they think? What would they say? I mean all this is my very own business but still the things which keep me from being who I am, possibly. Sorry to go on and on...I am new and ready to speak! HA!
Adrien


IP: 71.210.198.139

Apr 30th, 2007 - 10:31 PM 		Re: Introduction as well...

I think there are tons of people who can relate to that. I know that there are lots of MTF transpeople who don't do hormones or surgery ever, in large part as a compromise with family. Because of my experience transitioning it's hard to imagine doing that and being able to be fulfilled and happy. But it's certainly not for me to judge when someone tries to act out of love that way. For my part, the things that held me up weren't really love; they were more about fear. Fears I didn't even know how to articulate, but definitely including being scared about what my Republican father would do, what my brother, who tries to be progressive but in many ways really isn't, would say. In the end, I had to go forward, but the end for me didn't happen until I was 33 or so. My uncle was in his 40's before he began any physical transition.

I watched a 20/20 special this week on kids who are trans. It was amazing and hard not to think about "what if?" What if I had been able to be out and supported at that young age? What if I had only had to go through puberty once? But then, that's not how it happened for me, and there is so much that I have gotten, so far, out of the life I have had. I've said it before on this board, but how many men in their 30's can say they spent over ten years in the lesbian community? It's a pretty interesting perspective to bring to being an American man. There's no use crying over spilled years. :) But at the same time, it's always good to be doing what you can to conquer your fears and do whatever you know will bring you any measure of peace and happiness, whether that's taking hormones, having surgery, or learning martial arts or joining a monastery! And, one of the good ways to work through fear is to talk to a counselor. My partner and I FINALLY went to talk to someone after we had separated for several months and were trying to work it out. It's another "what if" I know, but I do think about how much it would have helped us to go before our whole world melted down. Be sure that anyone you go to is knowledgeable about gender issues and is definitely not someone who would judge you adversely in any way. And of course, talking to folks like on this board is a great thing, too.

Sorry to go on like that, but I absolutely relate and also relate to what it feels like to get through some small part of all that mess and start to feel better about myself. I hope we can all keep getting more well.


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