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JayMcLeod
IP: 66.82.9.55
Mar 27, 07 - 10:49 PM |
Trying to get the ball rolling
You guys want something to discuss?
I went fishing today with two girls. Due to a snake incident and baiting hooks, one of them actually told me, "Jay, after today I'll always see you as a real man." The other pointed out that, "It isn't what's between the legs that makes a man."
Made me feel like I was ten foot tall and bullet proof!
You guys have any good experiences like that to share?
I know it's rare that we have such experiences, but I wanted to share something positive.
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Jim
IP: 71.194.29.187
Mar 27th, 2007 - 11:46 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
I kept getting called "Sir" at work today!!! 
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Jim
IP: 71.194.29.187
Mar 27th, 2007 - 11:54 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
My girlfriend has a very hard time today discussing my T start. I came home from work and things were good. She asked me how I was doing (refering to my transition), I told her that I want to start my T in April. She had become very overwhelmed. She wants me to communicate what I am thinking to her and how I am feeling. This is all very new to her and she is still trying to adjust to this. I am trying to be as gentle as I can with her. After a very long week of stress and talking to her and her freaking out on me over my transition, she realized that she does want to stary with me forever and she wants to go through my transition with me. She is just haveing a really hard time right now.
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Evan
IP: 64.12.116.139
Mar 28th, 2007 - 12:00 AM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Jay, sounds like a very successful day of fishing! Your friend is right.........it isnt what is between the legs that makes a man but rather what is in your head and heart........how we conducts our lives....how we treat others and how we handle our responsibilities. I sometimes lose sight of that and feel incomplete but then I refocus on what I have instead of what I dont have.
And Jim, congrats on having a wonderfully supportive partner. Though it is hard for her, she has vowed her support for you. You are one lucky man!
Best to both of you
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JayMcLeod
IP: 69.19.14.41
Mar 28th, 2007 - 9:38 AM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Hey guys-
Yeah it was a good fishing trip
Jim- about your gf. I'm glad she's being supportive, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve right now. I've seen too many gf's support at first and then stop. It may be kinda up and down until she fully adjusts, but it sounds like she's really willing to work with you
So you guys like fishing?
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Jim
IP: 71.194.29.187
Mar 28th, 2007 - 8:23 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
AS long as I don't catch any crabs, I am good!...LOL When I was 10, we went fishing and I am very terrified of spiders btw, I caught a big crab and it looked like a spider, I was so freaked out, I chucked my fishing pole into the lake...LOL funny story. Yes, I love fishing, our son wants me to take him fishing next week while he is on spring break!
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JayMcLeod
IP: 69.19.14.41
Mar 29th, 2007 - 12:05 AM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Jim- I'm over here rolling in the floor imagining the whole crab-pole-in-lake story LOL.
I'm not afraid of spiders or crabs, but I will freak out when I'm wading and something slithery rubs my leg *shiver*
That's cool about your son, I hope you guys have fun. What sort of fishing will you be doing? I'm a bass fisherman mostly.
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Jim
IP: 71.194.29.187
Mar 30th, 2007 - 4:08 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Do you guys have your photos on the Gallary? It would be nice to put a face to the name. Mine is on the gallary.
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River
IP: 207.200.116.12
Mar 30th, 2007 - 7:06 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Give your gf some time and make sure you guys keep talking to each other, when I was 13 I went fishing and was very proud of myself when I caught a 5 pound rock, not sure how it stayed on the hook but it did, I'm 38 now and I still have it....
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Jim
IP: 71.194.29.187
Apr 1st, 2007 - 6:25 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Jay,
WE are just fishing to fish, nothing special.
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Ethan
IP: 207.155.50.96
Apr 3rd, 2007 - 6:41 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
I've been called "sir" and even "young man" at work on occasion. I work 8 days on, 6 off, and I usually get the male pronouns at least once a shift. Pretty cool stuff.
On a slightly less positive side, there's a LONG ass story with me and this girl that I am insanely in love with. We were engaged, I told her everything I was going through, she said it didn't matter, she loved me anyway, all that stuff. Well, her office found out about us (she's a member of a police force in Utah), and I was sent back to Texas with her job on the line. With as illegal as it was, we didn't fight it, and ended up breaking up over the distance about a week later. We still talked every once in a while, and then nothing. So, all of my stuff is still there, and since I'm moving in with my lesbian best friend (we're Will and Grace all over!) she wants to "swing by" and get my stuff. Long story short: this is my last chance to get the love of my life back. She's had a ton of hurt and pain and I don't want her to have any more of that. The best way I know to keep her from it is to be with her where I am in a position to protect her from it. The only thing standing in my way, I'm afraid, is her **** stubborn pride. Any suggestions to win my girl back? Thanks guys! I got a few ideas, but nothin solid. I'll take ANYTHING! I'm a desperate man! Haha!
Ethan 
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Syd
IP: 24.4.127.176
Apr 16th, 2007 - 4:31 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Good luck with your girl Ethan. I got no advice though.
This one's kinda funny: So, I did the school play, and the choreographer was pairing people up for one of the musical numbers. So, he says "I need all the guys up here, including the young man playing a woman. (gesturing to me)". Unfortunately, I had to explain that I wasn't a young man, because coming out at school would suck, but it still made me happy that even in a skirt and heels I look like a guy.
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Ethan
IP: 207.155.50.96
Apr 18th, 2007 - 11:07 AM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
LMAO! Syd, that's great man!
This may sound stupid, but I just emailed a friend of mine who is going through the opposite of us, and I told her that just once, my parents had seen me trying to pee standing up, or shave with a toothbrush and toothpaste, or how I dressed when no one else was around. Maybe then they would understand what I've dealt with for the past 20 years. Any of you boys ever felt it was your fault that the people in your lives didn't understand? That's been buggin me lately. Just curious...
Ethan
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Alec
IP: 207.200.116.12
Apr 18th, 2007 - 11:16 AM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
Hey Guys,
I got a good one to share. My step son, who is 28 has been in my life for over 10 years. He and I have had a rocky road at times, but he is a good man and he has always called me "he" and looks to me as a father figure in his life. For my 40th birthday this year, all of my friends took me to one of my favourite restaurant/bars and threw me a party. At the party, my stepson gave me a box he made, small and simple. He handed me the handmade card and told me to read it first. It said simply, "Inside this box is the image of the Perfect Father." When I opened the box, there was a mirror attached to the lid. Its our actions that make us who we are....
Alec
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JayMcLeod
IP: 66.82.9.61
Apr 18th, 2007 - 10:31 PM |
Re: Trying to get the ball rolling
" Any of you boys ever felt it was your fault that the people in your lives didn't understand?"
Yeah, I've felt that way too. Mostly when as a teen I indentified as a lesbian rather than being honest. Now people occasionally remind me of it and question which is the "real" me. Oh and my parents did catch me peeing standing up and dressing in my brothers clothes...it was NOT a pretty moment. I got the ultimate empty threat, "if you don't learn to act like a girl we're going to send you away and never come get you!" Yeah right, we lived in the middle of Ga, in a town the size of a thumb tack, where was I going? lol
Alec- emotional tale man. I hope I can have a son like that one day.
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