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Syd

syd@setstudios.com www.vonpoe.blogspot.com

IP: 24.4.127.176

Feb 17, 07 - 11:35 PM 		Transboy lost in the woods

Hello folks,

I'm Syd, a teenage transman (or boy, I guess is more accurate). I've only recently figured it out, and I don't really know how to go about it and be safe. I've passed before, mostly by luck, and later by design, but I was wondering, if any of you guys knew early in life, how did you live your life knowing? Which is to say, how and when to come out, passing, and such.

Thanks.
-Syd
Adrien


IP: 71.213.170.219

Apr 21st, 2007 - 4:05 PM 		Re: Transboy lost in the woods

Hey Syd -

I bet most of us could go on all day answering your question, so I'm surprised nobody has yet! I hope it's not too late - meaning I hope you are coming around and checking these boards regualarly. Unfortunately, there's not a great easy answer to this. I'm 36 and I had my top surgery in 2004 and started T in 2005. So, that's over 30 years of knowing I felt like a boy and then a man, but not knowing what to do or if there even was anything I could do. Typically, I came out as a lesbian before anything else. I say typically because I think that's a shared trait among many FTM coming out stories. We are a group that often has to come out twice to our families, friends, co-workers - first early in life as lesbians, then later as trans when we start to do any kind of transitioning. Being young, you get to just go through one tough coming out and self-discovery. That's a great thing!

The best thing I can possibly suggest to you is to start seeing a counselor, someone in your area who is familiar with gender identity issues and is affirming to transpeople. A person like that can help you in so many ways, but most importantly can help you feel safe while you work it all out. From there, you can reach out to LGBT groups in your area, even a group like PFLAG, to meet other transpeople and get support. Eventually, you may want to do some of the physical things of transition, like surgery or hormones, and a good counselor with the right credentials, and other supportive transpeople or allies, can very likely help you in finding the doctors local to you who would facilitate this.

Please don't hesitate to email me if there is any way I can help you myself, even just being someone to talk to.

Good luck with everything,
Adrien
JayMcLeod


IP: 69.19.14.19

Apr 21st, 2007 - 10:53 PM 		Re: Transboy lost in the woods

Hey Syd, ya got full support on this end lil' bro!

I knew that I was male from a tender age as well, but I didn't "officially" come out about it until I was about 20. Like many of us, I indentified as a butch lesbian when I was a teen, that is until they through me out of the club! lol. Seriously Syd, I think it's great that you are finding yourself so young. Have you told anyone about it? I agree with Adrien, that you should seek a good therapist or counselor to talk to, but if they try and make you feel guilty RUN!

Well baby bro, if ya need a sympathetic ear (eye?) drop me a line- fishnorfowl@hughes.net
jimmy


IP: 151.203.108.208

Apr 27th, 2007 - 10:20 AM 		Re: Transboy lost in the woods

Hey, it sound like you are on the right track. I came ou to myself and my lovers in my teens. But it took me ten years to tell my immediate family. The important thing is to take your time evaluating your needs and desires. Everyone from therapists to transguys has an opinion, and a lot of them are driven by misinformation. So be careful, don't believe everything you hear, and stick to people who are supportive of your choices.

If you need yet another big bro looking out for you, drop me a line.


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